What does it mean to become an unPERFECTED Mama?

Today's working mom is secretly suffering to a staggering degree in an attempt to be the perfect (fill in the blank); mom, partner, boss, daughter, sister, neighbor, school volunteer, host, chef, yogi, community leader--you get the point. She is managing the mental load of her home, family, pets, social circles and professional peeps, while trying to keep the house in order, everyone fed, and all hearts tended to without completely losing her shit. She’s beyond stressed wondering if she’s having enough sex with her partner, making healthy-enough meals, providing sensory friendly-enough activities and maintaining a toxin-free- enough home. She’s haphazardly juggling working from home with the kids’ on again off again remote learning and her partner being in her space 24/7, all while trying to close her Apple watch’s exercise ring. Oh, and don’t forget she’s also obligated to uphold gramma’s values in today’s doings and needs to get her mustache waxed ASAP.

If it sounds downright impossible, it’s because it is. And it’s killing her--and me.

The messages we have been absorbing throughout history have become our internal conditioned beliefs and have defined and deeply influenced how we think, feel and behave. On top of all that, today’s media messaging and the influx of information being shoved down our throats is designed to reinforce the belief that we are not enough and how much more we should be doing. This false image leads us to believe there is something wrong with us, when in all reality, the truth is that there is something wrong with the SYSTEM. And because our brains have evolved to keep us safe, sense danger, and compare ourselves to others, we are keenly aware of the never-ending rise in expectations and are desperately trying to meet them. At the cost of our health, authenticity, wellbeing, dreams, goals, desires, and ultimate truths.

Therefore, it should come as no alarming surprise that there is a direct parallel between the increase in responsibilities, workload, pressure and societal expectations on mom along with a frightening increase in her mental health conditions. Across the board we are seeing rapid jumps in things like substance use disorder (SUD), with most recent studies indicating women’s drinking is at an all time high, staggering increases in overall mental health disorders such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, and suicide rates.

Why? Because trying to be all the things to all the people while upholding old-school values and traditions is literally making us sick. Deteriorating our mental, emotional and physical health.

Enter, becoming unPERFECTED where I invite and strongly encourage you, mama, to embrace who you were before the world told you who you’re supposed to be, to harness the messiness and lean into your next-level cray.        

To find the beauty in reality, to normalize normal and to stop doing shit that doesn’t light you up!

Becoming unPERFECTED is about learning to consciously grieve who you were, the life you had and the ideal of how things would be while learning that you have many parts that are perhaps lost or hidden that need an invitation back to your table of life.    

Being unPERFECTED includes learning how to set boundaries such as learning to lower the bar, that NO is a full f’n sentence and how to protect your energy. Learning the importance of how to connect to your intuition, how to navigate change in a healthy way, how to find a mama community you can be real with. This is an opportunity to excavate your gems and integrate them into your being while also clarifying your core values which will become an internal GPS system. 

So, mama, are you ready to shed the shoulds, eff the filters and stop perfecting your life so you can actually start LIVING it?

Then join the waitlist now for my signature group coaching program The unPERFECTED Mama.

Learn more about the program here.

In short order, Perfection is OUT folks. unPERFECTED is IN.

Take care of yourselves and therefore each other,

XO brooke jean

The Pandemic is a Pressure Cooker for Change

Sometimes we can get so blocked and feeling stuck that we are unable to see what needs to change or where we need to pivot. The pandemic and our current political and social environment has created this pressure cooker for change.

Now, because we are in this collective shift and this pressure for change, we are not seeing clearly where it is that we need to make changes to take advantage of this opportunity and rise into who we are becoming.

Follow along with Brooke Jean as she shares how you can clear out this noise and receive the necessary information to grow, learn, and pivot.

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XO brooke jean

Leaders: See the Light in YOU and your TEAM!

One piece of what Brooke Jean does is coaching and consulting workshops for organizational leaders and their teams. Learn more about her approach and why she believes that success is an inside job.

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Perfectionists! 5 Quick Therapeutic Tips to QUIET your Inner B! (Critic)

There is just SO much we are all dealing with lately, and for perfectionists it can be too much. This can create angst, worry and anxiety- leading to our inner critics getting LOUDER.

So, perfectionists, how do you silence your inner critic? Learn 5 Quick Therapeutic Tips to QUIET Your Inner B with Brooke Jean of Brooke Jean Counseling and Coaching.

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Pause, Become Aware, Deep Sea Dive! Exploring Anxiety.

How do you do the deep-sea-diving to understand and gain awareness about your anxiety and triggering events? Where do you even start?

Brooke shares several signs as to how your anxiety might be manifesting, what is happening when you are feeling triggered, and what you can do with this information for your own healing and growth. Follow along and learn more from Brooke Jean with Brooke Jean Counseling and Coaching.

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A Deeper Look at Anxiety and Brainspotting

Have you been feeling triggered lately? We are currently living in a pressure cooker for anxiety and it can be hard to process all.the.things. What is emerging for you and revealing itself? Now is the time to heal. Learn more and explore anxiety and the healing brainspotting modality with Brooke Jean of Brooke Jean Counseling and Coaching.

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Strengthening Your Roots through Meditation

Join Brooke as she shares thoughts and ideas about what meditation has done for her and what meditation can do for you. Tune into your vibrations and consciously raise your awareness through meditation. Listen for more with Brooke Jean Counseling and Coaching.

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Settling Into Our New Normal

How are you settling into what is our 'new normal' and what is the larger spiritual assignment during this time? Listen as Brooke Jean shares her thoughts and insights on navigating our new realities.

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Mindfulness During Uncertain Times

Brooke Jean explores ways to use Mindfulness as a tool during times of uncertainty. How do you create space for your feelings of fear and anxiety while also consciously noticing the good in every day? This practice is essential for keeping our minds well. Listen for more with Brooke Jean Counseling and Coaching

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Mommy's Mental Health Matters, Series Expert: Terra LaRock

Join Brooke Jean with Brooke Jean Counseling and Coaching on her journey to exploring, sharing, and supporting all things for Mommy’s Mental Health!

In this monthly interview series, Brooke talks with other experts who are also passionate about and working to support mental health and the pressure on mothers. The first expert is Terra LaRock, CEO, and founder of The Mindful Mamas and creator of the Mindful Mama’s app.

Join Brooke and Terra as they discuss all things mindfulness, including working through anxiety, how to make a Holy shift!, and how to integrate mindfulness as a successful habit- all in this quick 30-minute series expert interview.

If you’re a mama looking for a little support and inspiration, join #BJCC’s Mommy’s Mental Health Matters group on Facebook.

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Reflect and Rise for 2020

Let's talk about New Year's resolutions and why they aren't all that great. Brooke Jean with Brooke Jean Counseling and Coaching wants to invite you to Reflect and Rise to make this coming year a magical one.

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Belly Breathing

Are you struggling with BIG Feelings such as stress, rage, overwhelm, anxiety, or Mom Guilt?

Does it feel like no matter what you do, you are stuck in that big feeling even though you desperately want to get out?

The reason why feelings can be so intense is because we are having a body reaction. Our nervous systems are firing away.

In this video, you will learn how to leverage Belly Breathing to calm down.

Here is why it works:

The Vagus nerve is one of the largest nerves in our systems linking our brains to our bodies.

When we engage in deep belly breathing, we tickle the bottom of the Vagus nerve, which then sends a message to our brains that we are safe and all is okay. Then, our brains release hormones that help us calm down, and when we calm our rational brain comes back online and we can take more conscious action.

Watch the video and try belly breathing when you are in the heat of any BIG FEELING and let us know how it goes for you.

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XO brooke jean

5 Signs You're Struggling with Mom Guilt

Are you a mama struggling with Mom Guilt?

If so, you are so not alone, sister.

I have yet to meet one single mama who hasn’t experienced some form of Mom Guilt.

In my most recent vlog, I share 5 signs you are struggling with Mom Guilt, and some tips on what you can do about it.

In a nutshell – our conditioning (messages we received growing up) about what at “good enough” Mom looks like have developed unconscious beliefs about what we “should” and “should not” be doing.

When we don’t follow the rules, we experience Mom Guilt.

BUT these old rules we are living by are not always true, relevant, or helpful.

We also struggle to notice how amazing we already are, thanks to our brain’s evolution.

AND we often have an area we do need to level up on to reduce Mom Guilt.

Check out the video to learn the signs…

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XO brooke jean

Why Self-Care is the MOST Important Strategy for Success Edit

Learn why this wildly successful working mama believes self-care is the most important strategy for success.

In my summit, Moms Living a Life they Love, I interviewed several brilliant, power-house business women who are also Moms on how they overcome barriers to have both, a successful career and flourishing family.

This Mom is a friend of mine who I have been inspired by in our community for several years. Holly Scott sets the bar for living the life she wanted and created. Somehow she makes being the VP of Wiesner Media, the Group Publisher of two very popular local magazines Mountain Living and Colorado Homes & Lifestyles, a very involved Mom of two boys and wife look not only fun but easyC

She has over 20 years of experience in the publishing and media industry. During her 15 years at Network Communications and WiesnerMedia, Inc., she elevated the company’s Home Design brands through increased sales revenues, product development, operations, mentorship, training, senior management, and marketing development.

In 2011, she authored “Sales University,” a weekly sales training program she developed and conducted for the company. In addition, she has hosted a Women’s Retreat to coach young women professionals about building confidence and creating work-life balance.

In my interview with her she shares:

• Self-Care is #1 in her life and how that helps her

• There really are NO EMERGENCIES

• Her art of balance and time management

• How to give yourself permission

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How to Advocate for Yourself on the Job to have Work/ Life Balance

How to advocate for yourself on the job to have work/ life balance- An Interview with Beth Feldman – Founder of the Role Mommy Blog and Co-Founder of Beyond PR Group.

In my summit, Moms Living a Life they Love, I interviewed several brilliant, power-house business women who are also Moms on how they overcome barriers to have both, a successful career and flourishing family.

This down-to-earth and brave working mama thought outside of the box and had the courage to ask for what she needed to have both family and a big career. Beth Feldman experienced great success working for CBS before launching her own entrepreneurial endeavors. Using the gifts she already had, she launched two successful companies/brands.

She is the co-founder of Beyond PR Group, a a full-service public relations consulting firm founded by leading experts in the parenting, consumer, lifestyle and entertainment PR industry. She is also the founder of RoleMommy, a parenting blog network, online community and events company dedicated to inspiring, entertaining empowering today’s busy parents to pursue their passion while raising a family.

As a nationally recognized parenting expert, Feldman is frequently interviewed by national and regional news media on career re-invention, social media, parenting tweens and work-life balance. She has appeared on broadcast news programs such as “Good Morning America,” “Nightline,” Better TV, ABC News Now, Fox News Channel, “Inside Edition,” WCBS-TV and CW-11 Morning News and has been quoted as an expert resource by national news sources such as Associated Press and The New York Times. Feldman is the co-author of Peeing in Peace: Tales & Tips for Type A Moms (Sourcebooks) and is the author and editor of the humor anthology See Mom Run – Sidesplitting Essays from the World’s Most Harried Moms (Plain White Press).

In my interview with her she shares:

• How essential is it to advocate for yourself to get what you want.

• Be daring, courageous, and creative!

• Use skills and connections YOU ALREADY HAVE.

• Tips on how to start blogging.

• Values – let them steer and guide you….

Go to Beth’s blog Role Mommy for some hilarious and helpful stuff!

Learn more about how my coaching program can help you advocate for yourself at work here!

Set up your FREE discovery call today to get busy making BIG THINGS happen in your life, while feeling your best!

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XO brooke jean

How to Manage Stress being a Working Mama

Learn how to manage stress being a working mama and so much more in this incredibly resourceful interview with one of my favorite boss babes.

In my summit, Moms Living a Life they Love, I interviewed several brilliant, power-house business women who are also Moms on how they overcome barriers to have both, a successful career and flourishing family.

This firecracker Mom, Michal Chesal, was so much fun to interview and her go-getter energy is just contagious. Three children, a divorce, and a thriving business later, she shares exactly what it takes to have both a family and thriving business.

She is a mompreneur who co-founded the Florida-based juvenile products company Baby K’tan, LLC. Shortly after the birth of her son, Coby, born with Down syndrome, Michal found herself searching for a baby carrier that could provide the sensory nourishment he required for optimal development. Unsatisfied with the options available, Michal began designing and creating her own modified carrier. Officially launched in 2007, the brand has since become one of the strongest names in infant carriers. Today, Baby K’tan, LLC continues to increase their product line, designing innovative products that promote the natural bond between parent and baby.

The culmination of her unique experiences has afforded her opportunities to be recognized in publications such as HuffPost, S FL Biz Journal, CBS & Miami Herald.

In my interview with her she shares:

• How her bright idea was born out of her child’s necessity

• Leveraging these 4 words to be successful: motivation, perseverance, patience and humility

• Being a single working Mom, time management is critical

• How to manage stress…

• Set 3 small goals a day and making the moment important!

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XO brooke jean

The Power of Positive Thinking in Achieving Goals

Be inspired by Eva’s vision to become an author and how she leveraged the power of positive thinking in achieving goals, and oh so much more!

In my summit, Moms Living a Life they Love, I interviewed several brilliant, power-house business women who are also Moms on how they overcome barriers to have both, a successful career and flourishing family.

Eva Pohler retired from a twenty-year position teaching writing and literature at a university in San Antonio, where she lives with her husband and three kids. Now a full-time writer, she’s the Amazon bestselling author of eighteen novels, including The Mystery Book Collection and three series for young adults: The Gatekeeper’s Saga, The Purgatorium Series, and The Vampires of Athens. Her books have been described as “thrilling” and “addictive.” A Kirkus reviewer said of The Gatekeeper’s Sons that it was “sure to thrill Hunger Games fans”.

In my interview with her she shares:

• Take your big long-term plan and break it down into manageable goals

• The power of positive thinking

• TAKE TIME OFF

• Work when you can and when you’re in your flow of genius

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XO brooke jean

Inspiration for Working Women who want to have kids or already have them

There is not much I am more passionate about than helping women know they don’t have to choose career or family, they truly can have both and in this interview we share inspiration for working women to want to have kids or already have them.

In my online interview series, “Moms Living a Life they LOVE”, I had the privilege of talking to successful, powerful, mompreneurs about how they have BOTH thriving businesses and loved families.

We address the taboo topics no one wants to talk about to normalize the challenges, pressures, expectations and realities we face as working mamas.

Hear from these FABULOUS ladies just how they do it, what lessons they have learned and be prepared to feel inspired.

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XO brooke jean

How to Help your Kids with Pain Addressing Pain, Fear and Focus.

Learn how this working Mom can help your kids with pain, while also inspiring you to get that business idea off the ground.

In my summit, Moms Living a Life they Love, I interviewed several brilliant, power-house business women who are also Moms on how they overcome barriers to have both, a successful career and flourishing family.

Want to go BIG with your career and family dreams? Starting her career in medicine while growing her family at the same time, Dr. Amy Baxter is a mother of three teenage kids, a full time entrepreneur and a previous emergency pediatrician and pain researcher.

She has been recognized for her visionary entrepreneurship following her invention of MMJ Lab’s core products: Buzzy® Needle Pain Relief and VibraCool™ Massaging Ice Therapy. Her multiple awards include Forbes Healthcare Technology Disruptors to Watch, MDDI Top 10 Innovative and Disruptive Women in Healthcare, Most Innovative CEO from Georgia’s Biotechnology Industry Organization (BIO), “Idea Person” by the Wall Street Journal, and Inc. Magazine’s Top Woman in Tech to Watch.

In my interview with her she shares:

• Generous maternity leaves make people much more productive – give your brain something else to think about!

• Cut stuff OUT to make room for what’s most important.

• Don’t forget to honor WHO you are.

• How to help your kids with pain addressing pain, fear and focus.

• It’s not the quantity of moments, but the QUALITY of them that make memories….

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XO brooke jean

3 Things to Consider when Focused on Wellness in the Workplace

3 things to consider when focused on wellness in the workplace.

Learn more about how Brooke Jean Counseling & Coaching can help you improve your team culture in unique and holistic ways here.

Learn more about how Brooke Jean Counseling & Coaching can support wellness in your biz here!

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