Do you ever find yourself trying to keep up with all the trendy mom things you see on the internet and doing all the things you think you SHOULD be doing?

I’m guilty of it and I’m here to tell you it’s time to live your freaking life.

From the get-go mamas have been the ones managing the home, managing the kid’s activities, shuffling them to and from, and preparing meals for our family. In today’s world, us modern mama’s - on top of doing all the house things - are working, making real money and a name for ourselves in the business world. Mom’s are freakin’ superheroes.

As we scroll our phones and chat with other parents at playdates or other activities, it’s easy to find ourselves in the comparison / “am I doing enough” game. From different parenting theories, to different theories of eating and nutrition, to behavior management, there’s an overload of crap that feels like a pressure cooker trying to do it all. Ya feel me? There’s just too. dang. much.

Since birth, we as women have heard things like what it means to be a human walking this earth, what it means to be a good girl, good wife, good mom, have good behavior, be well-liked and be validated and safe. It’s what we call conditioning - the core beliefs that flavor how we perceive the world. 

So how do we unperfect our lives to get to a place where we can start living it?

Here are three key ways to unperfect yourself and live the life you want:

#1 Follow Your ‘Shoulds’ - Identify core beliefs that are driving those feelings of “I should be doing this”, “Is should go to that holiday party”, etc.

Ask yourself is that belief relevant, realistic and supportive of your content today?

You want to do the things that light you up.

Once you’ve discovered those core beliefs and created new ones, ask yourself this: What are you doing to make that action come to life? 

#2 Claim Yo’ Space - You’ve got to protect your precious jewels: Time, Energy and Sanity.

• Time - 80% of results are driven by 20% of your effort. So where do you want your effort to go? Identify those “big potatoes” that align with your core values, beliefs and goals. 

• Energy - How you start the day sets the tone for the day. (Ex: meditation, journaling, a healthy drink, avoiding immediate stressors like news or social media). Recognize your peak times of energy and focus your efforts in that window of time. 

• Sanity - Engage in practices like meditation, crying, breath work, sleep, positive social interactions and avoid suppressing your emotions.

#3 Normalize Normal - Listen mama, everyone has a struggle and it’s OKAY!

Rather than keeping our struggles to ourselves, I believe in finding community of supportive people that you can share your struggles in a safe environment. When we share our struggles, we remove the shame from them. It is empowering! 

So let’s recap — what’s the real power of unperfecting?

When we shed our shoulds, claim our space and normalize normal, we free up time, energy and sanity for the things that matter most. As we embrace this power we heal and learn to love ourselves, we’re able to create the life we want to live, and we can go freakin’ live it. When I stopped listening to what the world told me to do and focused on what mattered, that’s when everything opened up. That’s my hope for you too, mama.

COMING IN JANUARY!

We’re dropping something special at the start of the year! Be on the look out for our new mental health membership, The unPERFECTED Spot, and be in community with us! It’s not just about normalizing normal, but also what we can continue to do once we’ve unburdened ourselves, and we can’t wait to keep growing with you. More information is coming soon — be sure you’re on my email list to get all the details! 

Take care of yourselves and therefore each other!

XO, Brooke Jean