I am so excited for the conversation in today’s episode because you asked, I delivered, and we are talking about sex baby!

Introducing expert guest Ashley Jones!

As a mother, educator, speaker, coach, surfer, world traveler, and activist, Ashley brings deep passion and dynamic lived experience to the sacred terrain of reawakening LOVE and intimacy in individuals and partnerships. Ashley is passionate about reclaiming the power of feminine sexuality and reigniting our potential for pleasure, joy and embodied fulfillment.

to kickstart our conversation i first wanted to know how ashley got started in her intimacy work to begin with.

As a mother and perfectionist Ashley found herself reaching a breaking point and realizing that she wasn’t living a fulfilling life. She and her husband were stuck in a space of robotic and habitual intimacy that she was not enjoying, and she was ready to explore herself. As she dove into her own journey she realized how much of an issue this topic is for most people, and specifically mothers. 

“Our sexuality is this uncharted territory that has been shrouded in taboo, conditioning, and religious shame – all the things that have left us disconnected from one of the most powerful parts of the feminine. Our magic, our connection to our bodies, our pleasure – it’s all essential for us living a full and important life.” 

So let’s get clear – what really is intimacy and embodiment anyway?

Embodiment is the process of being in your body. It’s the ability to feel and experience what is happening in the physical, mental, and emotional components of what we experience as human beings. Most of us aren’t connected to the feelings that we’re having because of our brain’s busyness, but we need the connection and ability to listen in order to have intimacy, deeper sexuality, health, and be in process with the body. 

This part of our existence and being is something we have disconnected from, abandoned, and attempted to turn back on for others, and I wanted to know more about Ashley’s take on why this has happened for us.

She notes that more often than not, a lot of us were never in the right relationships with our sexuality to begin with. Whether it’s conditioning we get from when we’re little to something that our friend said to us about our body to sexual trauma to religious conditioning, we have come to a place of not feeling adequate, feeling overwhelmed, or feeling physically numb. 

Rather than intimacy being something that we solely service our partners with, it’s meant to be where we’re tuned in to ourselves and where we connect with our partners. 

“Most of us just don’t really know our authentic sensual and sexual expression, and it has to evolve and grow. We’re not who we were in our younger years – we are wherever we are right now.”

So how do we rediscover and re-explore who we are sexually? Ashley shares that we first have to undo our desire for instant gratification and be open to nourishing, understanding, fostering, and appreciating our bodies regardless of where it is. We have to like and appreciate who we are.

“Our bodies are the vehicles of our souls and are a gift for us to be here. We’re often wanting to be something that we’re not, and when we want to be something that we’re not, we’re at war with ourselves. We’re not in appreciation and understanding and love and a loving relationship with our bodies, and getting into acceptance of the body that we’re in leads to our power.”

Celebrating and affirming our pleasure is the next important part of the conversation. Getting curious about what feels good in the body whether it be sensual or sexual. Exploring and playing with our bodies on a deeper level.

the areas that make us uncomfortable are often areas that we need to heal and grow around, and we need to start getting more comfortable. 

Slow down. Explore the body all over. Notice the sensations that you feel and breathe through it. Set a timer and explore your body with a nourishing touch. Open up your senses and notice what they bring you. Talk to your partners about what you’re wanting and what’s available for you within intimacy and sex. If you’re able to communicate what you really like in a specific way with your partner, you’ll be able to grow your intimacy and sexuality with one another. 

There’s a wide range of normal when it comes to our sexuality, and it’s not bad or shameful. It’s with love and consciousness and in the sake of pleasure, and it’s all fair game. 

Connect with Ashley!

Website: Uplevel Love
Instagram: @uplevellove
Youtube: Uplevel Love
Facebook: Uplevel Love

Take care of yourselves and therefore each other!

xo, brooke jean