“JUST AS NO TWO SNOWFLAKES ARE ALIKE, NO TWO SOULS GRIEVE ALIKE.” – THE ALCHEMY OF GRIEF: EMBRACING MOURNING THROUGH GRACE BY ANNAMARIE FIDEL-RICE, PH.D.
I believe there are two ways to grieve – consciously and unconsciously and with so much loss in the human experience, I feel passionately that we must slow down after experiencing a loss and truly allow ourselves to grieve. Grief is not linear or predictable and there is no time table for the process. Whether it be a life death or a life loss such as losing a pet, a marriage, your career, or your identity – they are all significant and deserve the space and time to heal. Allowing oneself to feel any and all feelings without personal judgement is imperative. You might be furious, deeply saddened, confused, or in denial – these are all normal responses.
Many human beings experience some sort of trauma in their lives. Whether it be abuse, war, witnessing a crime, or being in a car accident, it affects our brain and how we function. Neurobiology shows us what happens to the brain and that being a survivor of trauma changes the pathways. Healing can include talk-therapy, body work (as I believe our bodies tend to hold onto trauma) and doing foreign physical movements such as yoga to, in essence, rewire the brain. Whether you are experiencing PTSD, nightmares, flashbacks, or any other symptoms, we can begin to process and heal from wherever you are. The most important factor is creating safety which is of utmost importance to me and moving at the pace you are most comfortable with.